Pouring out my heart to you today
This is a post I have been wanting to write for a while now, but kept putting it off. So here it is finally. And, you probably won’t see me write this again, never say never but you’ll see what I mean as you keep on reading.
I could sit here and complain about a lot of things right now. My life is faaaar from perfect just like everyone else’s. But, I am alive, breathing and looking forward to a new start every day.
I truly believe that it’s all in your mind, how you perceive things and how you decide to go about it. For me, I don’t like to dwell on things, and think too much about what could have been or what didn’t happen. If something happened, it’s for a reason and I move on.
I move on because
I move on because life is short. It’s short in a sense that you cannot make up yesterday’s lost time with your baby (or babies), your loved ones, your family, friends and everyone whose company you enjoy.
I move on because if we are being honest, there is no point in drowning ourselves in past mistakes, unfortunate moments and awful days. Move on to bigger and better things, and be grateful for what you have.
I move on for my three babes. I want them to see a strong mom in me, a mom that doesn’t give up, a mom that is able to smile and laugh, and a mom that is there – present.
The real gift of gratitude is the more grateful you are, the more present you become. — Robert Holden
Be grateful, be thankful
I am the type of person that doesn’t care what others have, if their house is prettier, their lives seem more put together, have better cars, or more clothes or whatever really.
I am the type of person that doesn’t complain, hates excuses and always finds ways to solve things rather than ignore them.
I am the type of person that gets inspired when I see a pretty feed on Instagram, not to copy their style though. I am the type of person that believes in community over competition, and in uplifting others. If you are doing well, I am truly happy for you. So for that reason, I am able to enjoy the little things, show gratitude towards life and savor the moments.
I have bad days too
I have bad days, heck I have awful days. I get sad, disappointed, I cry and I have cried. But, I don’t let those bad days define me. In fact, I move on. A new day. A new start. I was raised to be strong, not in a sense to not give a fuck but in a sense to not let things get to me and to fight for everything I want. I was raised that having bad days and good days is all part of life.
When I am having a bad day, grabbing my favorite Starbucks drink and buying freshly cut flowers make me happy. It’s the little things in life that I enjoy.
I could sit here and tell you that my childhood was scarred because of the war we were in, and miraculously survived! Did you know that? Did you know that we lived in a country that was in a war? Probably not. You’d never know that a good part of my childhood we lived in a war, trying to survive. But, I didn’t let that define me, and I don’t talk about it because it’s the past and I have moved on. So if I was able to move on from that, then I can move on from everything that happens or comes my way today. I call it, pardon my language here, “chuck in the fuck it bucket!” But, I am just being honest.
We came to the States almost twenty years ago with nothing but suitcases, and having fought for everything we have today makes me proud, not entitled, but proud of our hard work. I say, our because this includes my parents. I wouldn’t be half the person I am today if it wasn’t for them, and I can only hope to be as good of a mother to my babes as my mom was to us. I have always learned to look for solutions, and move on in life.
Anxiety, what is that?
I don’t let things like anxiety take over my life. Like, what anxiety you think you’re stronger than me? I don’t think so. I don’t let depression get to me, well because I have three wonderful babes to take care of and I tell myself, snap the fuck out of it there are tiny humans that need you. And, I also know that not everyone can be the same way, that’s why we are all different and handle things differently – but again, this is my way. I am always looking at things with a positive outcome, you know I like to think of my glass being half full, than half empty – if that’s the correct way to say that.
When I am having a bad day, I like to give them extra hugs and kisses. I mean, one smile from them turns my bad day into a good day.
Also, when I have a bad day I just remind myself that days may seem long but years are short and our babes grow up SO quickly that it’s not worth fussing over that spilled milk (unless of course it’s breast milk) or because they decided to cry their way through grocery shopping (won’t name any kids but that was our Saturday morning grocery shopping). Instead, I like to just deal with that and remind myself that they are little, they have their moments, and they could be having a bad day too.
You do you
And, with this I don’t pretend to say that you too need to look at things the way I do, but just wanted to share how I feel about them and what my take is on it – which is very different from me judging you. I would never judge anyone. YOU do YOU.
I love sharing my story with you in hope you understand that nobody is perfect. Just because you see a pretty feed on Instagram it doesn’t mean that mama didn’t have a bad day, or moment or week. Be mindful of others. Sharing everything about our lives, motherhood and style is the reason why I do this blogging thing!
Heart Knit Sweater || Suede Leggings || Charcoal Bag || Studded Mules (sold out) ||
Outfit sponsored by Vici Dolls head to toe. I am obsessed with all of their pieces! If you have your eye on something make sure you grab it right of away as they sell out quickly.
And if you read this far, THANK YOU for always listening me ramble and following our journey as we navigate this motherhood thing together.
I truly love this heartfelt post, Vesna! I love following your daily stories and struggles and am so amazed and inspired by your hard work! I also love that you mention how collaboration is so much more meaningful than competition. I completely agree! We can all get so much further if we work together.
Thank you for your kind words Bettina, I appreciate it! And yes, if we empower one another we can succeed together. 🧡
Very inspirational. Thank you for sharing this.
Hi there! Thank you, and thank you for stopping by.